If you've been trying to create changes in your life by using visualization, and you've seen inconsistent results - or none at all - it may be because you've been doing it backwards! ;)
"Back to the Future"
Although this is a fictional movie, the idea of making changes to the past in order to change the present and future (instead of trying to change it by visualizing the future) is not as far-fetched as it may seem at first!
The truth is that everything we experience in the present is determined, not by the past, but by how the subconscious mind represents the past. Records, in the form of childhood memories, are providing the "proof" and "evidence" that support our beliefs of who we are and how the world works. This means that, no matter how much we may consciously want change - or how much we may visualize our lives to be different - the subconscious is referring to the "facts" from those childhood memories. And, since the primary job of the subconscious is to keep us safe - which means keeping us in alignment with what has always been (we're still alive, right?), we will be constantly guided back to the same old patterns and experiences.
Conscious attempts to make changes by using visualization will only succeed as long as the subconscious does not hold any contradicting "evidence" from childhood memories. For example: Visualizing being confident and successful will only succeed if there is no "evidence" in the form of childhood memories that support beliefs such as "I'm not good enough" or "I'm not safe".
In order to see consistent, reliable results, you need to change the childhood memories so that they support the life you want to live now - and then practice those new childhood memories. In other words - instead of visualizing the future, visualize the past! If you want abundance, spend your time visualizing (practicing) your new memories of an abundant childhood! That will give your subconscious "proof" and "evidence" to support the abundance you seek now - and it will automatically guide you in alignment with those new "facts".
Is it Possible to Change Childhood Memories?
The subconscious can't tell the difference between reality and imagination (notice how your body reacts when you watch a scary movie - it behaves as if the threat is real), and it cannot judge something as unrealistic (since it cannot use logic or reason). This means that when you use FasterEFT to change your childhood memories, your subconscious accepts whatever you give it. You will still know, consciously, what really happened (just like you know that's just a movie you're watching), but your subconscious will believe the new memories are real - and your results will change, accordingly!.
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Have you ever tried to improve your life, and seen no results at all, or the results you have seen have fallen far short of what you had in mind? There's a reason you may not have realized before.
If you've tried different methods, techniques and strategies to make changes to any area of your life, and found it didn't work (even though it may appear to be working for others), here's why...
Imagine a small, simple (for clarity) production line of thingamabobs.
The start of the production line is where each thingamabob is formed; and along the production line, various whatchamacallits are adjusted, added, tweaked, fiddled-with, and fine-tuned.
These particular things come out red. They ride along a conveyor belt, and reach the "output" whatsit, as completed red thingamabobs.
Now, you don't want red thingamabobs, you want blue widgets. So, what can you do?
You find various ways to make adjustments to the thingamabobs along the production line. You readjust, remove, re-tweak, re-fiddle-with, refine, and add different things as the thingamabobs travel along the production line - repainting each red thingamabob-turned-widget blue.
The problem is: there seems to be no way to slow that conveyor belt down, and you can't keep up with the flow of red thingamabobs. So, despite doing your best to chase the products down the production line, to catch as many as you can, you're ending up with some blue thingamabobs; some red widgets; and some half-blue-half-red thingwijmabobgets. In addition to that, many of the red thingamabobs are so well-made, they're impossible to adjust.
The solution, of course, is to go to the computer that has been programmed to automatically control the manufacturing, and change the design. Then, you can step back, relax, and just watch the new, perfectly-formed blue widgets arrive at the output whatsit! No fiddling, tweaking, painting, or patch-jobs needed!
The computer and production line are your subconscious. The thingamabobs are the thoughts; beliefs; emotional states; behaviors; physical symptoms; circumstances; perceptions; reactions; responses; and everything else you experience. Using any method to change those things is like making adjustments to the thingamabobs along the production line. You may be able to change some of them, some of the time, to some extent, but it can take a lot of effort and time, with hit-and-miss results.
In order to end up with a production line that produces the results you want every time - in all areas - you need to change the original design inside the computer. You need to reprogram it to produce the blue widgets you want. You need to change the negative or limiting childhood memories that are providing the references (design specifications) to which your subconscious (the computer) is referring. Then, you will automatically experience the new results - without any need for chasing products along the production line trying to fiddle and tweak!
How to Change the Design in the Computer:
The fastest, most effective way to change those references that are providing the design specifications for your current results is: changing negative childhood memories, using FasterEFT. Change those memories, and you automatically reprogram your computer to produce the results you want. And it IS possible to change those childhood memories.
For more information on why and how this is possible, see the resources below...
Medical Research Reference:
Epigenetic priming of memory updating during reconsolidation to attenuate remote fear memories.
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We know that changing childhood memories is how we reprogram the subconscious mind. But, for many people, the conscious mind gets in the way. The subconscious has no ability to tell "right" from "wrong". It also has no ability to use logic or reason, and cannot tell the difference between reality and imagination.
When you see a scary movie, you'll notice that your body goes into the same state it would if the threat were real. Your heart-rate increases; adrenaline is pumped into your system; your palms get sweaty - you experience the "fight-freeze-flight" emergency state. While your conscious mind knows it's just a movie, your subconscious thinks the threat is real, and is prompting your brain to trigger your organs to produce the same stress chemicals they would if you were in real physical danger.
This means that any logical objections to changing memories - for example: "That's not what really happened" "She would never have been like that" "But he never smiled" "But I couldn't have studied what I loved because I've ended up in a completely different career" "But I couldn't have grown up in France because I live in England" "Why should they get away with it" "That's not possible" "That's unrealistic" "That's denial" - and any other arguments along those lines - are coming from the conscious mind, not the subconscious. The subconscious cannot judge in that way. The subconscious only operates according to how it's programmed, based on the proof and evidence it holds (in the form of memories).
So, the solution to this conscious resistance to changing memories is - since the conscious mind uses logic and reason - using logic and reason! And here's how:
Logical Counter-Arguments for Conscious Resistance:
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Have you ever seen the movie: "The Matrix"? If you haven't seen it, I'll be explaining this in a different way as well, so stay with me! ;) If you have seen the movie, you'll remember that while a person is inside The Matrix, they see what we're used to seeing; they experience everything as "real". They see the world as we see it. However, looking at The Matrix from outside of it, it's simply computer code - ones and zeros.
The subconscious mind is like the coding of The Matrix. When you recall a memory (or have any thought at all), although the conscious mind is experiencing pictures, sounds, smells, tastes, feelings, emotions, and sensations, in the subconscious it's ones and zeros. It's just code.
Why Does this Matter?
When you change a memory in the subconscious, you're using your conscious mind to change the pictures, feelings, and other aspects of the memory, but what's happening inside your subconscious as you do that, is just a rearranging of "code". It's rearranging the "ones and zeros" - there are no pictures in your subconscious. There are no feelings or emotions in your subconscious. In fact, it is your subconscious that creates the sensations, feelings, and emotions in your body - in order to control your conscious mind, not the other way round!
When you are changing a memory, you are changing code.
And Now - For Those Who Haven't Seen "The Matrix"... ;)
When you use a computer, you are typing on a keyboard, using a mouse, and you are seeing images and text on a screen. However, the computer itself does not process your commands in the form of images and text. It is using code. In the same way - when you change a memory, using your conscious mind, you are changing aspects of the memory using your senses... (you're "looking at the computer screen") ... but your subconscious is receiving your commands in the form of code - just as your computer does.
Soooo... WHY is it Important??
It's important to bear this in mind because it helps you to understand that you are able to change your memories to absolutely anything - your subconscious is like a computer that has been programmed to keep you safe, based on the coding that has developed over your lifetime so far. Now, you get to change that programming, and change the parameters of what "safe" means - by changing the "proof" and "evidence" your subconscious holds - the references in the form of memories.
Your subconscious is not a separate entity with a mind of its own - any more than your computer is. Your subconscious is simply doing whatever it has been programmed to do. And, although it was programmed by default, before, now YOU have the option to take over and reprogram it in any way you choose! Using FasterEFT, you get to change that programming to whatever would empower you to enjoy your life more!
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"Stepping-stone memory" is a phrase I use to describe an interim memory between the original bad memory, and the ideal new memory, when you're using FasterEFT.
The Purpose of Stepping-Stone Memories
Stepping-stone memories are, I believe, essential for ensuring that all subconscious references are changed, regarding a particular issue.
For example: If you were bullied when you were 5 years old, and your dad didn't stand up for you, that memory may be providing the following references:
1. My dad doesn't stand up for me - which means I'm worthless.
2. I was bullied - which means I'm weak.
Some people will use Faster EFT to change the memory to where their dad did stand up for them. And that's great - that means their subconscious now has a reference that their dad stood up for them, and perhaps that will contribute towards a structure for "I'm worthy".
But if the memory remains that way, the subconscious still has a reference that you were bullied - so that is still providing the "evidence" for the belief "I'm weak".
If, on the other hand, you use FasterEFT to change the memory directly to where weren't bullied in the first place, that's great - and your subconscious will no longer have that reference providing "evidence" that you're weak... but it also won't have a reference for your dad standing up for you.
The answer? Stepping-stone memories!
How to Use Stepping-Stone Memories:
Using the example above...
1. First, use FasterEFT to change the memory to where you were bullied AND your dad stood up for you and protected you. This will change that reference in your subconscious - giving it proof that you you are worthy.
2. Practice that stepping-stone memory three times in a row.
3. Now, use FasterEFT to change the stepping-stone memory to where you weren't bullied in the first place! :) You were never bullied. You were popular; and the "bullies" are now friends and admirers. And you see your dad with you, proud of you, and you are having fun doing stuff together. This is now your new memory.
4. Practice that new memory three times in a row.
5. Write that new memory down, and practice it 12 times a day for the first week.
Using More than One Stepping-Stone Memory
You can use more than one stepping-stone memory - for example: if your father left when you were 3 years old, and then came back when you were 10 years old, and was abusive, and your mother never protected you - here are example stepping-stone memories you could create, using Faster EFT...
1st Stepping-Stone Memory:
When your father came back and was abusive, your mother protected you.
2nd Stepping-Stone Memory:
Now, when your father comes back, he's not abusive - he's loving and affectionate, so happy to see you, and tells you how much he missed you.
Now, change that to where your father never left in the first place.
Using these stepping-stone memories means you are changing multiple references in your subconscious along the way, with each step, until you arrive at the ideal new, positive and empowering reference - the final New Memory.
Points to Bear in Mind
As you change memories, whether they're stepping-stone or the ultimate new memory, keep reminding yourself:
* The subconscious cannot tell the difference between reality and imagination
* The subconscious cannot judge something as unrealistic
* The subconscious cannot use logic or reason
- which means the subconscious will believe whatever you give it. It's only your conscious mind that knows the difference. Just like your conscious mind knows that a scary movie is just a movie, but your subconscious triggers the "fight-freeze-flight" emergency state in your body while you're watching - as if the threat is real!
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"I can't get out!" she cried. "I've tried so many times; nothing works, there's no way to get out. I don't know what else to do."
He stood outside the deep pit, looking down into the darkness, at the bedraggled, shivering figure that stood just a few feet from the steps leading out of the muddy depths. "You need to get over to your left - there are steps there that you can use to climb out. That's how I got out."
"I can't," she said, "I've tried, and they're too steep."
"They are steep," he conceded, "but they're the only way out. "If you really want to be free, you need to find a way to climb them. There's a rope on the side that you can hold onto and pull yourself up."
She staggered over to the steps, grabbed the rope, and started to pull herself up. But, in addition to being steep, the steps were slippery - drenched in mud. As she started to climb, she kept her head down, looking at the slimy step she was standing on, and slipped. She cried out in frustration.
"Keep your head up!" He called to her. "You need to look at the top step - look up, where you want to end up. If you look down, you will follow your gaze and keep slipping back into the pit."
"But the steps are so slippery!" she shouted. I can't look up.
"You can do it!" he promised. "If I can do it, so can you! But you need to take your focus off the pit, and look where you're going. Each time you fall, and find yourself back in the mud, if you keep looking at the mud, that's where you'll stay. Instead, each time you slip, pick your head up, look at the top of the pit, hold onto the rope, and pull yourself up to the next step."
"But it's so hard," she cried, "they're so slippery, and it's so dark."
"I know," he said gently, "and I respect your choice."
"What choice?" she demanded.
"You have the choice to look up, even though the steps are slippery. You have the choice to keep your focus on the top as you ignore the mud and pull on the rope, lifting yourself from one step to the next, with my encouragement. Or you can keep looking at where you are. You can keep focused on the mud, and stay where you are. Those are your two choices. There is no other. Whichever you choose, I will respect... but know that it is your choice. Do what it takes to look up and get out (for you know the steps are there), or choose to keep looking where you are - and remain."
No matter how bad things are - no matter how helpless, hopeless and powerless you may feel at any given time - you always have a choice. And the choice is where you put your focus. You will go wherever you're looking.
When you're feeling depressed, anxious, hopeless, angry, frustrated - or any other negative emotion - no matter how bad it is, you have the choice: continue to think about whatever it is you're thinking about (focusing on the mud), or choose to put your focus on something else. Nothing outside of you has the ability to control your focus. Only you can do that. If Viktor Frankl was able to take his focus off the horrors of his experiences in concentration camps, and place it on where he would rather be (looking up and at where he wanted to go, rather than down and where he was), you can take your focus off wherever you are, and put it on where you'd rather be.
When Things are Bad, You Have a Choice:
1. Choose to do whatever it takes to move your focus off whatever it is that's bad, and tap, watch comedy, dance, go for a walk, read your Happy Journal (or something else uplifting), play a game, listen to uplifting music, do an activity you love doing, think about an activity you love doing, think about someone you love... or anything else that will pull your focus off the problem. And then, once you're out of the intense bad feelings, use FasterEFT to change the childhood memories that are the cause of these bad feelings and experiences - and do whatever it takes to Prioritize that....
2. Continue to look at where you are - and stay there. Continue to look at "what is" and how bad it is, and why nothing will work, and all the reasons for it etc.... and stay where you are.
And that second option is okay - there's no judgement. But it's important to realize it is a choice. It is your choice. You may not have a choice in the circumstances; you may not have a choice in what others are doing... but you DO have a choice in where you look. That is entirely within your power. And where you look determines how you feel... which determines where you go from here - even though it may not seem like that right now.
Where you look determines how you feel.
You decide where to look.
Which means you decide how to feel.
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If you've been using FasterEFT to improve your life by changing subconscious memories, you may have experienced some resistance. You may have recognized that resistance as your subconscious trying to keep you safe by keeping you in alignment with what has always been (you're still alive, right? ;) ) - and therefore, you may have continued to gently push forward, through the resistance, and make the changes anyway. You may have even used FasterEFT to address the resistance itself. But, if you're still finding yourself held back by "resistance" it may be because you haven't noticed the difference between subconscious resistance and conscious resistance. Here's the difference - and how to get past both...
Subconscious Resistance vs Conscious Resistance
The main difference between the two is: proof and evidence vs logic and reason.
The subconscious has no ability to use logic or reason. It also cannot judge something as "unrealistic". It works purely on the "proof" and "evidence" it holds from life experiences. It will believe whatever you give it - as long as the "proof" and "evidence" (memories) it holds don't contradict it. This is why we change childhood memories - to change the "evidence" and "proof" the subconscious is referring to.
If you're experiencing subconscious resistance, it will be because there is still some reference (in the form of memories) that it holds that contradict the new memories you're creating. The answer is to simply change those too.
Conscious resistance, on the other hand, is about logic. If you find yourself thinking thoughts along the lines of: "But I know that's not what happened"; "But they don't deserve to get away with it"; "It couldn't have happened that way because we weren't in that house at that time" or "I can't imagine her being affectionate" - those are logic and reason-based arguments, which means they are coming from your conscious mind, not from your subconscious. And you have control over your conscious mind!
How to Address Subconscious Resistance
Think of your subconscious as a child who is holding on to the side of a swimming pool, terrified they're going to drown. You're holding them, but they're in "freeze-fright" and too frightened to let go. How would you handle that? You wouldn't yank them off the side and scold them; you also wouldn't just leave them hanging there, and move on with your life. You would gently reassure them that they're safe. You would let them know you've got them, you won't let them drown, and they're safe. And you would point out some "proof". For example: "Look, the water's not deep, you can touch the bottom" or "You're wearing water-wings" or "Look at all the other children swimming safely and enjoying themselves"
The way to overcome subconscious resistance is to reassure, and change more memories as "proof". The more childhood memories you change to positive, the more "proof" and "evidence" your subconscious has that it's safe to move forward in changing your life.
How to Address Conscious Resistance
When you find yourself arguing with the new memories - for example: "I can't imagine him smiling - he never smiled" or "They don't deserve the new memory" or "But that would never have happened" or "But I know that's not what happened" - recognize that that is your conscious resistance. And, since your conscious mind works with logic and reason, you can use logic and reason to overcome the resistance - if you choose to. You have control over your conscious mind, and you get to decide whether or not you want to end up with changes or not.
When you come across conscious resistance, use these points of logic and reason to remind yourself:
1. I can't go back and change the past, but I can change how it's represented in my mind.
2. I'm not changing my conscious memory, I'm changing how it's held in my subconscious.
3. I know consciously what actually happened, but my subconscious doesn't know the difference between reality and imagination, and it doesn't have the ability to judge something as unrealistic - it will believe whatever I give it.
4. I have a choice: I allow myself to change the memory to positive, empowering, and happy - and get the results in my life that I want, or - I choose to keep the old memories, and keep my life the same as it is now.
5. There are no "memory police"! I get to choose what I hold in my subconscious and what I change. It's nobody else's business. And the only effects will be: empowering myself, and creating positive results in my life.
6. "They" are not really here - I'm not actually changing that person, and that person cannot fit inside my head. All I'm changing is the part of me, inside my own mind, that is representing that person. This is just between me and myself.
7. If I reeeeeeally want changes, I'll prioritize changing these memories, and then practicing them at least 12 times a day (while brushing teeth, washing dishes etc.- anytime throughout the day, while doing other activities) - to make sure I get the results I want.
You have complete control over resistance - if it's subconscious, reassure and keep changing the "proof" and "evidence" (in the form of memories). If it's conscious (objections that argue using logic and reason) use logic and reason to remind yourself of the points above.
Change the memories, change your life! :)
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We had a question come up recently, in one of our classes, from someone, asking how to "tap along" in a group tapping session. She was finding it difficult to concentrate on her own issue or memory while following along with the volunteer's demonstration session.
It's important to remember that you don't need to focus consciously on the problem or the memory you're changing. It is your subconscious that is doing the work. So, all you need to do with your conscious mind is briefly notice what's there. That is enough to aim your subconscious at what you're changing - and then IT does the work.
Think of it as throwing a ball for a dog. All you need to do is throw the ball and tell the dog to "Fetch". You don't need to chase the ball with the dog - you don't even need to keep your eye on the ball. Once you've thrown it, and said "Fetch", you can carry on a conversation with someone; read something; watch something else... and trust the dog to keep his eye on the ball, find it, and bring it back to you.
Notice, Don't Focus
In the same way, briefly noticing what's there is all you need to do - that is the equivalent of throwing the ball and telling the dog to "Fetch" - for your subconscious. Then you can follow along with the demonstration, and it doesn't matter if you're absorbed in the volunteer's story - your subconscious is busy addressing yours in the background, without the need for your conscious attention. Staying focused on the problem or memory is like running with the dog to fetch the ball. Just notice (throwing the ball and saying "Fetch"), and then take your focus off it while you tap or do something else, allowing your subconscious to do the work (allowing the dog to find and fetch the ball).
We've heard from a few people recently, who've been concerned because when they've used FasterEFT to change a bad memory to a positive one, the old bad memory seems to come back.
The concern has been "How can I be sure now that when I change a memory, it really changed, and the old one is not still there?"
If you play the new memory regularly, and clean it up if there are any doubts, it will usually stick. This is why we recommend practicing the new memories at least 12 times a day for the first week. It doesn't need to take any extra time in your day - it can be while doing other things, like brushing your teeth, driving, or washing dishes. ;)
The more you think about something (like the new memory), the more you're using that neural network; and the more you use it, the more those neural connections become "wired". When you stop using particular neural connections, they start to lose the connection. This is how the brain is "rewired" when we learn new information and cease to think about the old information. The more you practice the new memory, the more established the new neural network becomes. :)
Having said that, as you practice the new memory, if you find the old memory, or aspects from the old memory, popping up, that just means there are still some of the old connections - and that's okay, you can just notice them, and then tap, let them go, and change them. And then continue to practice the new memory. :)
Think of it as a weed in the garden. You've removed the weed, and you think you've removed the root, and you've planted flowers. And you're watering the flowers each day. And then you notice a bit of the weed growing between the flowers. You wouldn't think that the flowers aren't real, and the weed has come back and there's nothing you can do about it; you would just realise that you hadn't quite got all of the weed out, and there must have been a bit left, that has grown, and then you would just pull those bits out, and continue to take care of the flowers. :)
Treat the old memory as a weed you've removed - you don't want to replant it by practicing it, but you also know that once you've removed it and planted flowers in its place, it can't magically replant itself. If it appears to come back - it's just bits of the root that were left behind that have started to grow. Just calmly remove them. And then keep watering and appreciating the flowers (the new memory). When you see a weed, you could fear it, even though it can't hurt you, or you can just pull it out. ;) And your old memory has no more power over you than a weed would have. :)
Extra Resource: You may find this article useful as well - it gives a specific example of two ways of responding to an issue that appears to come back:
What if it Comes Back
I received a message from someone who has been struggling with using FasterEFT. He's been trying for years, and hadn't managed to even change one memory. I worked with him for an hour, and he managed to finally change one strong memory from his childhood. However, this morning (a week and a half later), I received an email from him saying that the old memory had come back, the new memory feels "fake" and he's feeling depressed and suicidal because tapping isn't working. While writing my reply to him, I was aware that it may help others as well, so I'm sharing this part of my reply here as a blog post. :) Whether you're feeling depressed or not, and whether you're feeling that FasterEFT is working or not, I believe that this analogy is empowering! :)
Here are a few things to bear in mind:
1. Your mind does not have a mind of its own. You are the only one in there. Imagine you're on a ship, and it's going through storms and crashing into rocks, and you just want a lovely cruise. And you're trying to find the captain to tell him to change course. And you can't find him. And you find the radio, and you get on the radio and call for help (reaching out to other people - for example the FasterEFT community). And then one of them tells you that you're the captain, you just didn't know it.
So you've been sitting on the ship as a passenger, and the ship has just been battered around by the elements automatically, with no real steering. And so now, you have the ability to take the wheel - take control - and control that ship yourself. But of course it's currently in the middle of a storm and surrounded by rocks. So you need to steer it out of that area. And so you use FasterEFT (take the wheel and start steering). But because it's already in the storm and among rocks, when it hits a rock, you're letting go of the wheel and thinking the ship is being steered by someone else.
When it hits a rock, you need to remind yourself that you're the captain, and you need to hold onto that wheel and steer away from the rock. In other words, when the memory seems to come back, you need to recognise that the memory is like a rock - it doesn't have a life or will of its own. And you have the power to say "Okay, I'm the captain - there's no-one in here except me. The rock can't do anything by itself. I choose to play the new memory." And when you don't feel good, that's another rock, and you can choose to say "Okay, I'm the captain - there's no-one in here except me. The rock can't do anything by itself and the ship doesn't have a mind of its own, and I choose to watch comedy, do something fun, think about fun things, focus on stuff that feels good etc."
The biggest part of this is recognising YOU are the only captain. And every time you feel like something is happening TO you, it's just you letting go of the wheel. ;) You have the choice to take the wheel again, and steer yourself away from the pain by choosing to focus on something else. Even if if seems hard - it only feels hard to change your focus because the chemicals are so strong. But they're just chemicals. If you think about it, there's nothing to stop you from looking at something else.
When you feel any kind of negative emotion, those chemicals in your bloodstream only last for 60 to 90 seconds ... unless you focus on it. If you were to immediately turn your focus to something funny, or something else that feels good, for 90 seconds, those chemicals would be out of your blood stream. But wherever you're looking is where you're going. When you're steering your ship, you're heading in the direction you're facing - and that means that whenever you're thinking about or focused on something that feels bad, that's the direction you're pointing yourself in, and that's where you're going. You need to turn the wheel (by choosing to look at something that feels good) - no matter how difficult it seems. It really isn't anyone physically stopping you from changing your focus - it's your choice, and it's just the chemicals that feel bad. Wherever you're looking is where you're going, Captain! ;)
2. As for the memory being fake, remember - the subconscious doesn't have the ability to judge something as "fake" or unrealistic. It doesn't know the difference between reality and imagination and will believe whatever you give it. (Remember, when you watch a scary movie, your brain and body behave as if the threat is real! Your heart-rate increases, adrenaline is pumped into your blood stream etc. And it is only your conscious mind that stops you from running away because it knows it's just a movie). Your subconscious will believe whatever you give it. Your subconscious will believe the new memory is real. It is your conscious mind that is judging it as fake, not your subconscious. And you have control over your conscious mind! You get to choose and decide what you think consciously.
So, when you think of the memory as being fake, you can remind yourself: "Yes, and so is the other one because it's not happening now. And I have a choice - to hold onto the old memory (which is also fake because memories are not accurate - science has proven that no memories are accurate and every time we recall a memory, it changes) OR I can choose to accept the new one. I'm the boss of me, and I decide what I want. There are no memory police!" ;)
Going back to your ship - think of the new memory as the lights of the place you want to get to - the land in the distance - the "safe harbour". The new memory is the lights of the safe harbour (or tropical island or whatever place you want to get to), and you are in the middle of a storm and rocks. And you need to keep your eyes on the lights of the safe harbour in order to get there because you'll go in whichever direction you're facing! And every time you focus on the storm and the rocks, that's where you stay because that's where you're facing. So, whenever you hit a rock, you need to look at the lights of the safe harbour, and steer your ship in that direction (take your focus off the bad stuff and focus on something that feels good until those chemicals have diluted in your blood stream, and play that new memory - and make it funny! Make it funnier and funnier - there are no memory police, and you can do whatever you like inside your own mind! ;) ). And when it feels difficult, remind yourself: "I'M captaining this ship!!"
3. Tapping is not what makes the changes. Tapping is only one way of pulling your focus off your problem, and when the emotions are already strong, it is usually not enough. You need to take that wheel and steer yourself away - by choosing to change your focus to something funny, or something that feels good - and that will change your physical and mental state. There is nothing stopping you from doing that except you. And it is only because the chemicals are so strong that that feels so difficult in the moment. But tapping while feeling the bad emotions and staying focused on them usually won't work. You need to pull yourself out of the bad emotions (choose to keep your eyes on the lights of that harbour by turning your focus to something that feels good).
Odille and Steve Remmert are specialists in subconscious reprogramming. Having significantly transformed their own lives by changing their subconscious programming, they're excited to be helping others do the same!