I received a message from someone who has been struggling with using FasterEFT. He's been trying for years, and hadn't managed to even change one memory. I worked with him for an hour, and he managed to finally change one strong memory from his childhood. However, this morning (a week and a half later), I received an email from him saying that the old memory had come back, the new memory feels "fake" and he's feeling depressed and suicidal because tapping isn't working. While writing my reply to him, I was aware that it may help others as well, so I'm sharing this part of my reply here as a blog post. :) Whether you're feeling depressed or not, and whether you're feeling that FasterEFT is working or not, I believe that this analogy is empowering! :)
Here are a few things to bear in mind:
1. Your mind does not have a mind of its own. You are the only one in there. Imagine you're on a ship, and it's going through storms and crashing into rocks, and you just want a lovely cruise. And you're trying to find the captain to tell him to change course. And you can't find him. And you find the radio, and you get on the radio and call for help (reaching out to other people - for example the FasterEFT community). And then one of them tells you that you're the captain, you just didn't know it.
So you've been sitting on the ship as a passenger, and the ship has just been battered around by the elements automatically, with no real steering. And so now, you have the ability to take the wheel - take control - and control that ship yourself. But of course it's currently in the middle of a storm and surrounded by rocks. So you need to steer it out of that area. And so you use FasterEFT (take the wheel and start steering). But because it's already in the storm and among rocks, when it hits a rock, you're letting go of the wheel and thinking the ship is being steered by someone else.
When it hits a rock, you need to remind yourself that you're the captain, and you need to hold onto that wheel and steer away from the rock. In other words, when the memory seems to come back, you need to recognise that the memory is like a rock - it doesn't have a life or will of its own. And you have the power to say "Okay, I'm the captain - there's no-one in here except me. The rock can't do anything by itself. I choose to play the new memory." And when you don't feel good, that's another rock, and you can choose to say "Okay, I'm the captain - there's no-one in here except me. The rock can't do anything by itself and the ship doesn't have a mind of its own, and I choose to watch comedy, do something fun, think about fun things, focus on stuff that feels good etc."
The biggest part of this is recognising YOU are the only captain. And every time you feel like something is happening TO you, it's just you letting go of the wheel. ;) You have the choice to take the wheel again, and steer yourself away from the pain by choosing to focus on something else. Even if if seems hard - it only feels hard to change your focus because the chemicals are so strong. But they're just chemicals. If you think about it, there's nothing to stop you from looking at something else.
When you feel any kind of negative emotion, those chemicals in your bloodstream only last for 60 to 90 seconds ... unless you focus on it. If you were to immediately turn your focus to something funny, or something else that feels good, for 90 seconds, those chemicals would be out of your blood stream. But wherever you're looking is where you're going. When you're steering your ship, you're heading in the direction you're facing - and that means that whenever you're thinking about or focused on something that feels bad, that's the direction you're pointing yourself in, and that's where you're going. You need to turn the wheel (by choosing to look at something that feels good) - no matter how difficult it seems. It really isn't anyone physically stopping you from changing your focus - it's your choice, and it's just the chemicals that feel bad. Wherever you're looking is where you're going, Captain! ;)
2. As for the memory being fake, remember - the subconscious doesn't have the ability to judge something as "fake" or unrealistic. It doesn't know the difference between reality and imagination and will believe whatever you give it. (Remember, when you watch a scary movie, your brain and body behave as if the threat is real! Your heart-rate increases, adrenaline is pumped into your blood stream etc. And it is only your conscious mind that stops you from running away because it knows it's just a movie). Your subconscious will believe whatever you give it. Your subconscious will believe the new memory is real. It is your conscious mind that is judging it as fake, not your subconscious. And you have control over your conscious mind! You get to choose and decide what you think consciously.
So, when you think of the memory as being fake, you can remind yourself: "Yes, and so is the other one because it's not happening now. And I have a choice - to hold onto the old memory (which is also fake because memories are not accurate - science has proven that no memories are accurate and every time we recall a memory, it changes) OR I can choose to accept the new one. I'm the boss of me, and I decide what I want. There are no memory police!" ;)
Going back to your ship - think of the new memory as the lights of the place you want to get to - the land in the distance - the "safe harbour". The new memory is the lights of the safe harbour (or tropical island or whatever place you want to get to), and you are in the middle of a storm and rocks. And you need to keep your eyes on the lights of the safe harbour in order to get there because you'll go in whichever direction you're facing! And every time you focus on the storm and the rocks, that's where you stay because that's where you're facing. So, whenever you hit a rock, you need to look at the lights of the safe harbour, and steer your ship in that direction (take your focus off the bad stuff and focus on something that feels good until those chemicals have diluted in your blood stream, and play that new memory - and make it funny! Make it funnier and funnier - there are no memory police, and you can do whatever you like inside your own mind! ;) ). And when it feels difficult, remind yourself: "I'M captaining this ship!!"
3. Tapping is not what makes the changes. Tapping is only one way of pulling your focus off your problem, and when the emotions are already strong, it is usually not enough. You need to take that wheel and steer yourself away - by choosing to change your focus to something funny, or something that feels good - and that will change your physical and mental state. There is nothing stopping you from doing that except you. And it is only because the chemicals are so strong that that feels so difficult in the moment. But tapping while feeling the bad emotions and staying focused on them usually won't work. You need to pull yourself out of the bad emotions (choose to keep your eyes on the lights of that harbour by turning your focus to something that feels good).
Odille and Steve Remmert are specialists in subconscious reprogramming. Having significantly transformed their own lives by changing their subconscious programming, they're excited to be helping others do the same!