We tend to think of our emotions as separate from our work and finances, and beyond our control. The truth is: Emotions are sensations that are caused by chemical reactions in the brain and body; and those chemical reactions have a powerful impact, physiologically – which, in turn affects more than how we feel; it affects our perception.
Whenever you’re feeling any kind of negative emotion, your brain and body are in a level of the emergency fight-freeze-flight state. As part of this stress state, blood drains from the prefrontal cortex of your brain – where you do your cognitive thinking. This means that whenever you’re feeling a negative emotion, your ability to think clearly, problem-solve, strategize, communicate, process information, notice and take advantage of opportunities, and so much more – is adversely affected.
How Your Emotions are Affecting Your Finances
Whenever you’re feeling a negative emotion, with your cognitive thinking operating at a lower level of efficiency:
1. Your judgement is impaired.
With the blood draining from your prefrontal cortex to the amygdala, your brain is in the same survival mode it would go into if you were in physical danger. All resources are, in that moment, assigned to immediate survival. You may find that you are either over-cautious, or reckless.
2. Your ability to see opportunities and make the most of them is affected.
Since your brain and body are in survival mode as a result of the stress chemicals pumping through your bloodstream, with your prefrontal cortex “offline” you won’t be able to notice opportunities you would notice if you weren’t in a state of emergency. And without your cognitive thinking, you won’t be able to make the most of those opportunities you do see. There may well be opportunities for you to resolve financial problems, increase your income, or reduce expenses – but you won’t be able to see them or make the most of them without that part of your brain processing the information.
3. Problem-solving, creativity, productivity, and strategizing is impacted.
Without the ability to think clearly (with that part of your brain unable to function effectively), you will not be able to come up with the solutions you would normally come up with. Again, there may be solutions that would resolve financial problems, or ways you can work around obstacles and challenges. However, since the part of your brain that is responsible for problem-solving and strategizing is effectively offline whenever you’re experiencing negative emotions, you won’t be able to access these solutions during that state. You also have less access to creative thinking, and are less likely to be productive while your brain and body are in the stress emergency state that causes negative emotions.
4. Communication is affected.
Since, evolutionarily, cognitive thinking and communication are not necessary for running away, fighting, or pretending to be dead, part of the emergency stress state is a reduction in the ability to communicate effectively. This means that while you are feeling any kind of negative emotion, you are less able to express yourself or use effective negotiation skills.
5. Perception of self, others, situations, and circumstances are impacted.
The chemicals that cause negative emotions also affect how you see yourself. From feelings of inadequacy and doubt, to over-confidence – depending on the individual – these emotions will affect your decisions and choices as well as the actions you take (or don’t take). In addition to this, you will tend to see other people, situations, and circumstances differently to the way you see them when you’re feeling good. Again, this is because we are designed for survival – which means that whenever we are in a state of emergency (fight-freeze-flight), the focus is automatically on “danger”. As a result, anything that could be interpreted as possibly negative is magnified (in order to survive). There may be actions you could take to improve your finances, but while you’re in a negative emotional state (survival mode), you will probably be experiencing fear, doubt, and other “warnings”.
In addition to this, your subconscious is designed to keep you “safe” by keeping you the same (you may not be happy or wealthy, but you’re still alive, right?). So, whenever you get too close to making real, core change, your subconscious prompts your brain and body to produce stress chemicals that create feelings, emotions and impulses. Your conscious mind then interprets these as doubt, fear, and “logical” reasons for not moving forward.
Changing Your Finances by Gaining Control Over Your Emotions
Gaining control over your emotional (chemical) state is about more than just feeling better; it’s about keeping the prefrontal cortex of your brain online to enable you to function more effectively. With full access to your cognitive thinking, you will be more able to:
Gaining control over your emotions means gaining control over the chemical state of your brain and body. And this is a skill you can develop like any other skill.
The ability to control and/or change your chemical state means you’re able to switch the production of stress chemicals for endorphins, oxytocin, and serotonin. And, although this really is as simple as switching your focus (the connection of neurons in the neocortex of your brain determines the chemicals that are produced) – the fact that you are effectively “hacking” your “security system” makes it challenging.
We are designed so that stress chemicals are more powerful, and more convincing, than “feel-good” chemicals – in order to survive. This means when you’re feeling a negative emotion, and you try to change your focus to something positive, it’s like dropping a teaspoon of cold water into a bathtub filled with hot water. The water’s still hot! The stress chemicals are still creating the sensations of negative emotions.
There are two parts to developing the skill of gaining control over your emotions:
1. Conditioning your brain and body to make “feel-good” chemicals their default state (just as you would condition your body for physical fitness)
2. Changing the subconscious references that provide the “evidence” that changing what you have now would be dangerous
ESC (Emotional State Conditioning) is an emotional “fitness” program designed to help you to develop the skill of gaining complete control over the chemical state of your brain and body – and therefore, your emotional state.
CMT (Childhood Memory Transformation) is a method for changing the subconscious references that are providing the evidence that it would be dangerous to change. Changing these references from negative to the opposite, positive, and empowering is the equivalent of reprogramming a burglar alarm so that it stops going off every time the wind blows or the cat moves, and only goes off when there is real danger.
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The majority of people who try to make significant changes to themselves in order to change something in their lives experience some kind of resistance.
If you've ever tried to improve your health or fitness, learn a new skill, or create personal boundaries, you've probably experienced resistance.
What is Resistance in Personal-Development?
The main drive of the subconscious is to keep you alive. Since the subconscious cannot use logic or reason, the way the conscious mind does, it relies on the data it collects from previous experiences to determine what will keep you alive. To the subconscious, staying alive means staying the same and in alignment with what has always been. Change equals risk. While you may not be happy with the way things are right now, you are still alive.
So, when you come too close to real, core change, your subconscious - like a security system - will kick in and do whatever it takes to prevent you from changing.
How Do We Experience Resistance?
We all experience resistance to change, in different ways. You may have found that when you decide to get fitter by starting a new exercise program, it goes well to begin with (while there are no major, core changes). Then, as you reach a certain turning point, you may find that you get ill; injured; or too tired. You may find you get distracted by something else, or no longer believe that exercise program is right for you. You may find that you don't feel like it, or you forget to do it, or that you put it off til "later" - and "later" never comes.
While you may believe these "reasons" for discontinuing the exercise program, the truth is: Your subconscious is recognizing the "danger" of core changes to your body, brain, or both, and is then prompting your brain and organs to produce a certain mix of stress chemicals. These chemicals are creating sensations, feelings, emotions, and impulses that your conscious mind is interpreting as: fatigue; lack of interest; reluctance; loss of belief... and if none of that works, your immune system is compromised to allow illness, or your judgement is impaired to allow injury.
Whatever it takes to keep you from the "danger" of core changes.
Using the Power of Resistance
As Neville Goddard pointed out - everything needs resistance in order to move.
Instead of seeing resistance as a hurdle, something that's preventing you from moving forward, or something you need to fight, choose to see it as progress.
When you notice yourself feeling resistant to doing something that will move you forward in your life - whether that's physical exercise; eating healthier; practicing ESC or new memories; changing childhood memories; or taking action in your business - notice the resistance, and then recognize it as a sign that you're close to change.
Recognize it as a sign that you're on the right track!
How you see resistance is more important that pushing through it.
In other words, rather than forcing yourself through the resistance, seeing it as an obstacle - instead, recognize it, and then reassure yourself. In fact, feel excited by it - it's a sign you're getting close to achieving what you want. Congratulate yourself! And then gently move forward anyway.
It is your perception and the MEANING you give to the resistance that determines whether you overcome it or not.
For example: If you find yourself feeling resistant to doing your physical exercise routine, notice it, as an observer, and recognize it as your subconscious trying to keep you "safe" by keeping you from changing. Then, reassure that part of you, and do it anyway, gently.
If you find yourself resisting practicing the ESC exercises, do the same - recognize that resistance, whatever form it may take (too tired; it doesn't work; I'll do it later; I don't feel like it; I can't do it... etc.), and remind yourself: it takes no time, effort, or money, and then do it anyway.
Of course, if you're ill or injured, and you're doing physical exercise, take the time to recover before moving forward, BUT - choose to see that as a sign you're close to making real change to your fitness level, and plan to pick up again (or go back a few steps if necessary), once you've recovered, rather than seeing it as a delay, hindrance, or reason to abandon your goal of improving your fitness.
Use the resistance to encourage yourself that you are on the right track, rather than see it as an obstacle. And then, do the thing anyway - gently.