The majority of people who try to make significant changes to themselves in order to change something in their lives experience some kind of resistance.
If you've ever tried to improve your health or fitness, learn a new skill, or create personal boundaries, you've probably experienced resistance.
What is Resistance in Personal-Development?
The main drive of the subconscious is to keep you alive. Since the subconscious cannot use logic or reason, the way the conscious mind does, it relies on the data it collects from previous experiences to determine what will keep you alive. To the subconscious, staying alive means staying the same and in alignment with what has always been. Change equals risk. While you may not be happy with the way things are right now, you are still alive.
So, when you come too close to real, core change, your subconscious - like a security system - will kick in and do whatever it takes to prevent you from changing.
How Do We Experience Resistance?
We all experience resistance to change, in different ways. You may have found that when you decide to get fitter by starting a new exercise program, it goes well to begin with (while there are no major, core changes). Then, as you reach a certain turning point, you may find that you get ill; injured; or too tired. You may find you get distracted by something else, or no longer believe that exercise program is right for you. You may find that you don't feel like it, or you forget to do it, or that you put it off til "later" - and "later" never comes.
While you may believe these "reasons" for discontinuing the exercise program, the truth is: Your subconscious is recognizing the "danger" of core changes to your body, brain, or both, and is then prompting your brain and organs to produce a certain mix of stress chemicals. These chemicals are creating sensations, feelings, emotions, and impulses that your conscious mind is interpreting as: fatigue; lack of interest; reluctance; loss of belief... and if none of that works, your immune system is compromised to allow illness, or your judgement is impaired to allow injury.
Whatever it takes to keep you from the "danger" of core changes.
Using the Power of Resistance
As Neville Goddard pointed out - everything needs resistance in order to move.
Instead of seeing resistance as a hurdle, something that's preventing you from moving forward, or something you need to fight, choose to see it as progress.
When you notice yourself feeling resistant to doing something that will move you forward in your life - whether that's physical exercise; eating healthier; practicing ESC or new memories; changing childhood memories; or taking action in your business - notice the resistance, and then recognize it as a sign that you're close to change.
Recognize it as a sign that you're on the right track!
How you see resistance is more important that pushing through it.
In other words, rather than forcing yourself through the resistance, seeing it as an obstacle - instead, recognize it, and then reassure yourself. In fact, feel excited by it - it's a sign you're getting close to achieving what you want. Congratulate yourself! And then gently move forward anyway.
It is your perception and the MEANING you give to the resistance that determines whether you overcome it or not.
For example: If you find yourself feeling resistant to doing your physical exercise routine, notice it, as an observer, and recognize it as your subconscious trying to keep you "safe" by keeping you from changing. Then, reassure that part of you, and do it anyway, gently.
If you find yourself resisting practicing the ESC exercises, do the same - recognize that resistance, whatever form it may take (too tired; it doesn't work; I'll do it later; I don't feel like it; I can't do it... etc.), and remind yourself: it takes no time, effort, or money, and then do it anyway.
Of course, if you're ill or injured, and you're doing physical exercise, take the time to recover before moving forward, BUT - choose to see that as a sign you're close to making real change to your fitness level, and plan to pick up again (or go back a few steps if necessary), once you've recovered, rather than seeing it as a delay, hindrance, or reason to abandon your goal of improving your fitness.
Use the resistance to encourage yourself that you are on the right track, rather than see it as an obstacle. And then, do the thing anyway - gently.